EFT sees relationships “as an attachment bond”. Dr. Sue Johnson gives us a detailed map to lasting love. Using this approach couples are empowered to take control of their dances of disconnection and conflict and move towards embracing a secure loving bond.
Most fights are really protests over emotional disconnection. Underneath all the distress, couples are asking the questions:
- “Can I count on you, depend on you?”
- “Are you there for me?”
- “Will you respond to me when I need, when I call?”
- “Do I matter to you?”
- “Am I valued and accepted by you?”
- “Do you like me?”
- “Do you need me?”
EFT is based on 50 years of research helping couples begin to connect and thrive. EFT also helps families who are in distress and individuals who want to understand how they connect with others and how best to deal with their needs for support from others.
In my work with couples using this approach, I have found they begin to flourish when they see how to shift out of destructive cycles of pursuer-withdrawer into a more loving pattern of connection. As we work together, we will work to rebuild the foundations of your relationship and begin to create a secure emotional bond where both partners feel nurtured and alive.
Dr. Sue Johnson explains Emotionally-Focused Therapy